5 The gymWhy it’s wrong: My spandex pants are giving me a slight case of camel toe, my glutes exercise is done in a similar position I’d take while taking it from behind, and I’m trying to watch the “Real Housewives” while simultaneously getting my cardiovascular fitness on. Women really, really appreciate sweaty, testosterone-amped men leaving them alone in the midst of working out.
Once you’ve gotten to buddy-buddy level and have spent way too much money on lattes, then you can ask her if she’d be interested in hanging out some other time. Don’t ask her to hang out after her shift, ever. It’s annoying, and she might be afraid to walk to her car after bar close. Realize if she says no you might need to find a new place to buy sandwiches/coffee/records, so gauge the deliciousness, convenience, and place in general before asking her out.
Do it right: Begin by altering your mindset. Rather than, “I’m going to Café X since amazing sexy woman works there,” think, “I’m going to Café X because I’m hungry for a sandwich… and it would be nice to also see amazing sexy woman, too.” Even if you’re really thinking the former, telling yourself this will give you a less-desperate and not-as-inexplicably-obsessed-with-sandwiches air. Go ahead, flirt her up, but be respectful of her space and time.
6 While she’s at work (and you’re not)Why it’s wrong: You may think it’s endearing to sort of stalk the smokin’ hot barista around the corner from your place or to “visit” your favorite cocktail waitress on a weekly basis and ask her a ton of personal questions while she cleans up drunk people’s messes. This is the opposite of a prime situation for Woman in Question to be in, though. The line between being sweet and aggressive is very, very thin, due to the fact that she can’t leave and she probably has to be nice to you because hey, that’s customer service — even though she might think you’re annoying and really want you to go away.
Meeting women at bars, concerts, parties, and bookstores is far from unheard of. But of course there are some places and situations where trying to pick up a woman might not be the best idea. We’re here to assure you it can be done. Here are six popular situations and locales where you can swoon a potential lady friend, if you go about it the right way.